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10 Kos -taboes regoor die wêreld (skyfievertoning)

10 Kos -taboes regoor die wêreld (skyfievertoning)

Van kultuur tot etiket, daar is 'n paar interessante besliste "moenies" as dit by kos kom

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Papoea -Nieu -Guinee Taboes

Vir vroulike stamlede in Papoea -Nieu -Guinee in die middel van hul menstruele siklusse, is daar 'n aantal voedseltaboes waaraan hulle ook moet voldoen. Aangesien hulle vermoedelik in 'n 'sieklike' toestand is, word vroue nie toegelaat om vars vleis, sappige piesangs of rooi gekleurde vrugte te eet nie. Enigiemand wat die kos eet wat 'n menstruerende vrou kook of selfs oorgaan, sal daardie persoon - veral die man - 'siek word van hoes en moontlik sterf'. Alhoewel ouer vroue ook nie veronderstel is om vis -eiers te eet as hulle swanger is nie, kry ongetroude jongmanne die beste kos en het hulle nie veel voedseltaboes nie.

Brasiliaanse taboes

Seekos is 'n belangrike deel van die Brasiliaanse dieet. Maar nie alle vis geniet almal nie Brasiliane. Roofvisse, soos piranhas en bodemvoeders, word as taboe beskou vir siekes om te eet. Diegene wat siek is, word egter aanbeveel om omnivore vis te eet.

Chinese taboes

As u toevallig op reis is Sjina, om na jou eetstokkies te kyk, is dieselfde as om na jou maniere te kyk. Nadat u 'n maaltyd in 'n restaurant klaargemaak het, moet u nie die eetstokkies in die oorblywende rys onder in u bak laat vassit nie. Hierdie praktyk word gebruik wanneer gesinne 'n maaltyd aanbied vir die spook van hul voorouers by familie -heiligdomme, maar Chinese mense glo dat dit in 'n restaurant die eienaar met 'n vreeslike vloek sou teister.

Japannese taboes

Om te deel is nie noodwendig omgee nie Japannees kultuur. As u van plan is om u maaltyd te deel, moet u die happie op 'n klein bord plaas en dit dan aan die ontvanger gee. Hoekom? Omdat voedsel van eetstokkie na eetstok oorgegee word, verwys dit na die Japannese gewoonte om deur die verasde as van 'n familielid te sif om die bene van hul geliefdes te hanteer.

Russiese taboes

Ou wêreld tradisies leef baie in Rusland as dit kom by tradisionele afsprake. As u hoop om 'n meisie in 'n restaurant te hof, moenie verwag dat u Nederlands sal praat nie. As die inisieerder van die datum word van u verwag om alles te betaal, aangesien die meeste Russiese vroue nie eers hul beursies op 'n formele datum sal bring nie.

Indiese taboes

Voedsel -taboes in Indië wissel volgens godsdiens. Vir diegene wat oefen HindoeïsmeDit is verbode om 'n koei te eet, aangesien dit beskou word as 'n nuttige gawe van God aan die mens, aangesien dit suiwelprodukte verskaf en die basis is vir ander produkte. Baie Islamities en Moslem gesinne vermy nie net varkvleis om godsdienstige redes nie, hulle voel dat varke in absoluut afskuwelike omstandighede geteel word en nie verbruikbaar is nie.

Italiaanse taboes

Of jy nou uit 'n Italiaans-Amerikaanse gesin is of gelukkig was om self Italië te besoek, jy weet dat daar geen tekort aan voedsel is nie. Ten spyte van die feit dat Italianers sal u voed totdat u te vol is, word dit as onbeskof beskou om die eerste ete te aanvaar. Weier eers beleefd, maar as u 'n tweede keer aangebied word - wat u waarskynlik sal wees - aanvaar dit gerus

Jamaikaanse taboes

As dit by die grootmaak van kinders kom, is daar sekere taboe wat verband hou met voedsel Jamaican mense glo in. Daar word geglo dat as kinders hoender eet voordat hulle leer praat, hulle nooit sal praat nie. Deur 'n halwe eier te eet, sal die kind 'n dief word, en melk uit 'n bababottel kan 'n dronkaard word.

Nigeriese taboes

Baie soos die Jamaikaanse taboes, baie Nigeriërs se taboes draai om kinders. Alhoewel hulle ook glo dat kinders wat eiers eet, in diewe sal verander, voel hulle ook baie sterk oor klappermelk. 'N Ander algemene oortuiging is dat kinders wat hierdie tipe melk drink, hulle onintelligent sal maak.

Franse taboes

Eet in Frankryk is 'n belewenis. Die taboes wat verband hou met die Franse eetkamer, het meer te doen met maniere as met kulturele oortuigings. Dit word as onbeskof beskou om deur 'n maaltyd te jaag of u bestelling te bespoedig. U wil ook nooit 'n doggy-bag vra of kos op u bord laat nie, die implikasie is dat u nie u maaltyd geniet het nie.


'Manne het gesê ons is immoreel ': die afrodisiacum uitdagende taboes

As Amra Mansur as make-upkunstenaar in Abuja werk, terwyl sy regte studeer, hoor sy gesprekke tussen toekomstige bruide en ouer familielede oor hoe hulle hul mans in die slaapkamer kan behaag.

Die ouer, meestal vroulike familielede sou aphrodisiac -resepte voorlê wat bestanddele soos fenegriek, dadels, heuning, waatlemoen en die vrugte syagtige kola bevat.

Nadat sy haar studies voltooi het, het Mansur besluit dat sy nie 'n prokureur wil wees nie, en die bruidsgrimeringbedryf raak te druk. 'Ek moes in iets nuuts duik, en toe dink ek - hoekom nie Kayan Mata nie?'

'Kayan Mata' verwys na die afrodisiacum gemaak van kruie, wortels, speserye, sade en vrugte wat eeue lank deur vroue uit die noorde van Nigerië gebruik is. Alhoewel dit oorspronklik gebruik is om bruide voor te berei vir 'n huwelik, om 'n gesonde sekslewe te verseker, word die afrodisiacum toenemend gewild onder alle vroue regoor die land. Resepte word van geslag tot geslag oorgedra.

'Al my bestanddele is natuurlik. Heuning is een van die bestanddele. Ons het speserye soos kaneel, kardemom, mosterdsaad, brandrissie, dadels en suikerriet. Ons het 'n paar kruie, wortels, poeiers wat ons in Nigerië kry, veral rondom Zamfara, Gusau en Sokoto, 'sê sy. 'Hierdie kruie moet in hul natuurlike blaarvorm kom, sodat ons kan sien wat ons koop.'

Kayan Mata word nie net 'n vooruitstrewende onderneming nie, dit daag ook die taboes rondom seks en huwelik en die rol van vroue in die samelewing uit.

Daar word van baie noordelike vroue verwag om die konserwatiewe rolle van vrou en moeder te vervul. "Die beeld wat ons het, is nie om seksuele tigresse te wees nie - ons is veronderstel om vuil te wees," sê die joernalis Fatima Umar. Openlik oor seks word nie van vroue verwag nie.

'Aanvanklik het ek gedink dit gaan so omstrede wees, want alhoewel ons noordelike vroue dit aanvaar, was ek nie destyds getroud nie,' sê Mansur, wat haar eie gesinsresepte bygevoeg het aan diegene wat tydens haar tyd bymekaar gekom het. , voordat sy haar onderneming oopgemaak het. 'Dit was 'n taboe vir iemand wat nie getroud is nie, om Kayan Mata openlik te verkoop. Selfs as u getroud is en Kayan Mata verkoop, is daar die stigma daaraan verbonde. ”

Umar onthou die terugslag wat sy ondervind het nadat sy 'n vierdelige radioprogram wat sy vervaardig en aangebied het, uitgesaai is.

"Die terugslag was van mans wat gesê het dat ons onsedelik is deur vroue 'n platform te gee om oor seksualiteit te praat," sê sy. In twee van die episodes het vroue gepraat oor die huwelik met 'n man wat hulle nie tevrede gestel het nie. 'Om 'n Hausa-vrou op die platteland van Kano te hoor sê hierdie dinge-ons het gedink dit is baanbrekende joernalistiek, maar dit het so 'n probleem geword dat ek my foon moes afskakel omdat ek allerhande praatjies kry dat dit 'n gruwel is. ”

Buiten die terugslag, is Umar opgewonde en gefassineer deur die nuwe golf van Kayan Mata en hoe dit gesprekke open oor vroulike plesier binne gemeenskappe en sosiale groepe. 'Hopelik sal ons in die volgende 10 tot 15 jaar meer oop openbare gesprekke sien.'

Een mite wat ontwrig moet word, is die mistiek rondom Kayan Mata wat dit vergelyk met liefdesdrankies en sjarme wat vroue gebruik om mans te betower of om hulle van hul vrouens te lok.

'Kayan Mata is seksvoedsel. Dit is wat ek hulle noem, ”sê Mansu. 'U neem hierdie kos en dit maak u nat en soet. Dit is net hul doel, nie om jou te laat betower deur jou man nie. As jy so in die bed is en dan geniet hy jou, as hy daarna iets goeds doen, dan is dit op hom. ”

Sosiale mediaplatforms soos Instagram was van kardinale belang om die gewildheid van hierdie plaaslike afrodisiacum te verhoog, en het ruimte gebied vir meer oop gesprekke oor seks en plesier, asook om baie noordelike vroue finansieel te bemagtig.

Alhoewel dit moeilik is om 'n waarde op die Kayan Mata -mark te stel, sê Umar: 'Dit bemagtig vroue beslis omdat hulle mense in diens neem wat hulle goed betaal. Daar is mense by die huis wat die kruie kry en weens hierdie oplewing beter geleenthede vir hulself en gesinne kon kry. ”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was drie jaar besig om haar onderneming te bestuur toe haar 17-jarige dogter haar oortuig het om 'n Instagram-bladsy te open. Binne weke sê sy dat bestellings vanaf plekke soos die VSA, die Verenigde Koninkryk, Istanbul, Ciprus en Dubai begin instroom het. Sy verduidelik egter dat afkomstig uit 'n konserwatiewe gemeenskap steeds beteken dat sy seks nie eksplisiet op haar sosiale media mag bespreek nie.

'Baie mense dink dat dit nie goed is om in die openbaar oor seks te praat nie. Mense kyk na jou as iemand wat eiesinnig of onverantwoordelik is, sodat mense baie wegsteek as dit kom by seks of die gebruik van afrodisiese produkte. ”

Baie van die geskiedenis rondom die gebruik van Kayan Mata sentreer rondom mans as die belangrikste ontvangers van seksuele plesier, 'n mite wat Mansur graag wil uitbreek.

'Toe ek begin, het al die vroue gesê:' Gee my iets wat my man gaan mal maak! Gee my iets wat hy sal geniet. ’En dan sê hulle:‘ Ek gee nie om of ek pret het nie, solank hy dit doen. ’”

Terwyl hierdie versoeke voortduur, het sy geglo dat vroue 'n verandering in hul ingesteldheid nodig het en besluit om hulle te leer hoe om hul eie seksuele plesier te omhels.

'Ek is so trots op myself, want ek het nou vroue wat dit geniet om seks te hê. Ek het vroue wat orgasmes en klimaks gehad het omdat baie vroue nie geweet het wat orgasmes is nie. ”


'Manne het gesê ons is immoreel ': die afrodisiacum uitdagende taboes

As Amra Mansur as make-upkunstenaar in Abuja werk, terwyl sy regte studeer, hoor sy gesprekke tussen toekomstige bruide en ouer familielede oor hoe hulle hul mans in die slaapkamer kan behaag.

Die ouer, meestal vroulike familielede sou aphrodisiac -resepte voorlê wat bestanddele soos fenegriek, dadels, heuning, waatlemoen en die vrugte syagtige kola bevat.

Nadat sy haar studies voltooi het, het Mansur besluit dat sy nie 'n prokureur wil wees nie, en die bruidsgrimeringbedryf raak te druk. 'Ek moes in iets nuuts duik, en toe dink ek - hoekom nie Kayan Mata nie?'

'Kayan Mata' verwys na die afrodisiacum gemaak van kruie, wortels, speserye, sade en vrugte wat eeue lank deur vroue uit die noorde van Nigerië gebruik is. Alhoewel dit oorspronklik gebruik is om bruide voor te berei vir 'n huwelik, om 'n gesonde sekslewe te verseker, word die afrodisiacum toenemend gewild onder alle vroue regoor die land. Resepte word van geslag tot geslag oorgedra.

'Al my bestanddele is natuurlik. Heuning is een van die bestanddele. Ons het speserye soos kaneel, kardemom, mosterdsaad, brandrissie, dadels en suikerriet. Ons het 'n paar kruie, wortels, poeiers wat ons in Nigerië kry, veral rondom Zamfara, Gusau en Sokoto, 'sê sy. 'Hierdie kruie moet in hul natuurlike blaarvorm kom, sodat ons kan sien wat ons koop.'

Kayan Mata word nie net 'n vooruitstrewende onderneming nie, dit daag ook die taboes rondom seks en huwelik en die rol van vroue in die samelewing uit.

Daar word van baie noordelike vroue verwag om die konserwatiewe rolle van vrou en moeder te vervul. 'Die beeld wat ons het, is nie om seksuele tigresse te wees nie - ons is veronderstel om vuil te wees', sê die joernalis Fatima Umar. Daar word nie van vroue verwag om openlik oor seks te praat nie.

'Aanvanklik het ek gedink dit gaan so omstrede wees, want alhoewel ons noordelike vroue dit aanvaar, was ek nie destyds getroud nie,' sê Mansur, wat haar eie gesinsresepte bygevoeg het aan diegene wat tydens haar tyd bymekaar gekom het. , voordat sy haar onderneming oopgemaak het. 'Dit was 'n taboe vir iemand wat nie getroud is nie, om Kayan Mata openlik te verkoop. Selfs as u getroud is en Kayan Mata verkoop, is daar die stigma daaraan verbonde. ”

Umar onthou die terugslag wat sy ondervind het nadat sy 'n vierdelige radioprogram wat sy vervaardig en aangebied het, uitgesaai is.

"Die terugslag was van mans wat gesê het dat ons onsedelik is deur vroue 'n platform te gee om oor seksualiteit te praat," sê sy. In twee van die episodes het vroue gepraat oor die huwelik met 'n man wat hulle nie tevrede gestel het nie. 'Om 'n Hausa-vrou op die platteland van Kano te hoor sê hierdie dinge-ons het gedink dit is baanbrekende joernalistiek, maar dit het so 'n probleem geword dat ek my foon moes afskakel omdat ek allerhande praatjies kry dat dit 'n gruwel is. ”

Buiten die terugslag, is Umar opgewonde en gefassineer deur die nuwe golf van Kayan Mata en hoe dit gesprekke open oor vroulike plesier binne gemeenskappe en sosiale groepe. 'Hopelik sal ons in die volgende 10 tot 15 jaar meer oop openbare gesprekke sien.'

Een mite wat ontwrig moet word, is die mistiek rondom Kayan Mata wat dit vergelyk met liefdesdrankies en sjarme wat vroue gebruik om mans te betower of van hulle vrouens te lok.

'Kayan Mata is seksvoedsel. Dit is wat ek hulle noem, ”sê Mansu. 'U neem hierdie kos en dit maak u nat en soet. Dit is net hul doel, nie om jou te laat betower deur jou man nie. As jy so in die bed is en dan geniet hy jou, as hy daarna iets goeds doen, dan is dit op hom. ”

Sosiale mediaplatforms soos Instagram was van kardinale belang om die gewildheid van hierdie plaaslike afrodisiacum te verhoog, en het ruimte gebied vir meer oop gesprekke oor seks en plesier, asook om baie noordelike vroue finansieel te bemagtig.

Alhoewel dit moeilik is om 'n waarde op die Kayan Mata -mark te stel, sê Umar: 'Dit bemagtig vroue beslis omdat hulle mense in diens neem wat hulle goed betaal. Daar is mense by die huis wat die kruie kry en weens hierdie oplewing beter geleenthede vir hulself en gesinne kon kry. ”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was drie jaar besig om haar onderneming te bestuur toe haar 17-jarige dogter haar oortuig het om 'n Instagram-bladsy te open. Binne weke sê sy dat bestellings vanaf plekke soos die VSA, die Verenigde Koninkryk, Istanbul, Ciprus en Dubai begin instroom het. Sy verduidelik egter dat afkomstig uit 'n konserwatiewe gemeenskap steeds beteken dat sy nie seks uitdruklik op haar sosiale media mag bespreek nie.

'Baie mense dink dat dit nie goed is om in die openbaar oor seks te praat nie. Mense kyk na jou as iemand wat eiesinnig of onverantwoordelik is, sodat mense baie wegkruip as dit kom by seks of die gebruik van afrodisiese produkte. ”

Baie van die geskiedenis rondom die gebruik van Kayan Mata sentreer rondom mans as die belangrikste ontvangers van seksuele plesier, 'n mite wat Mansur graag wil uitbreek.

'Toe ek begin, het al die vroue gesê:' Gee my iets wat my man gaan mal maak! Gee my iets wat hy sal geniet. ’En dan sê hulle:‘ Ek gee nie om of ek pret het nie, solank hy dit doen. ’”

Terwyl hierdie versoeke voortduur, het sy geglo dat vroue 'n denkwyse moet verander en besluit om hulle te leer hoe om hul eie seksuele plesier te omhels.

'Ek is so trots op myself, want ek het nou vroue wat dit geniet om seks te hê. Ek het vroue wat orgasmes en klimaks gehad het omdat baie vroue nie geweet het wat orgasmes is nie. ”


'Manne het gesê ons is immoreel ': die afrodisiacum uitdagende taboes

As Amra Mansur as make-upkunstenaar in Abuja werk, terwyl sy regte studeer, hoor sy gesprekke tussen toekomstige bruide en ouer familielede oor hoe hulle hul mans in die slaapkamer kan behaag.

Die ouer, meestal vroulike familielede sou aphrodisiac -resepte voorlê wat bestanddele soos fenegriek, dadels, heuning, waatlemoen en die vrugte syagtige kola bevat.

Nadat sy haar studies voltooi het, het Mansur besluit dat sy nie 'n prokureur wil wees nie, en die bruidsgrimeringbedryf raak te druk. 'Ek moes in iets nuuts duik, en toe dink ek - hoekom nie Kayan Mata nie?'

'Kayan Mata' verwys na die afrodisiacum gemaak van kruie, wortels, speserye, sade en vrugte wat eeue lank deur vroue uit die noorde van Nigerië gebruik is. Alhoewel dit oorspronklik gebruik is om bruide voor te berei vir 'n huwelik, om 'n gesonde sekslewe te verseker, word die afrodisiacum toenemend gewild onder alle vroue regoor die land. Resepte word van geslag tot geslag oorgedra.

'Al my bestanddele is natuurlik. Heuning is een van die bestanddele. Ons het speserye soos kaneel, kardemom, mosterdsaad, brandrissie, dadels en suikerriet. Ons het 'n paar kruie, wortels, poeiers wat ons in Nigerië kry, veral rondom Zamfara, Gusau en Sokoto, 'sê sy. 'Hierdie kruie moet in hul natuurlike blaarvorm kom, sodat ons kan sien wat ons koop.'

Kayan Mata word nie net 'n vooruitstrewende onderneming nie, dit daag ook die taboes rondom seks en huwelik en die rol van vroue in die samelewing uit.

Daar word van baie noordelike vroue verwag om die konserwatiewe rolle van vrou en moeder te vervul. 'Die beeld wat ons het, is nie om seksuele tigresse te wees nie - ons is veronderstel om vuil te wees', sê die joernalis Fatima Umar. Daar word nie van vroue verwag om openlik oor seks te praat nie.

'Aanvanklik het ek gedink dit gaan so omstrede wees, want alhoewel ons noordelike vroue dit aanvaar, was ek nie destyds getroud nie,' sê Mansur, wat haar eie gesinsresepte bygevoeg het aan diegene wat tydens haar tyd bymekaar gekom het. , voordat sy haar onderneming oopgemaak het. 'Dit was 'n taboe vir iemand wat nie getroud is nie, om Kayan Mata openlik te verkoop. Selfs as u getroud is en Kayan Mata verkoop, is daar die stigma daaraan verbonde. ”

Umar onthou die terugslag wat sy ondervind het nadat sy 'n vierdelige radioprogram wat sy vervaardig en aangebied het, uitgesaai is.

"Die terugslag was van mans wat gesê het dat ons onsedelik is deur vroue 'n platform te gee om oor seksualiteit te praat," sê sy. In twee van die episodes het vroue gepraat oor die huwelik met 'n man wat hulle nie tevrede gestel het nie. 'Om 'n Hausa-vrou op die platteland van Kano te hoor sê hierdie dinge-ons het gedink dit is baanbrekende joernalistiek, maar dit het so 'n probleem geword dat ek my foon moes afskakel omdat ek allerhande praatjies kry dat dit 'n gruwel is. ”

Buiten die terugslag, is Umar opgewonde en gefassineer deur die nuwe golf van Kayan Mata en hoe dit gesprekke open oor vroulike plesier binne gemeenskappe en sosiale groepe. 'Hopelik sal ons in die volgende 10 tot 15 jaar meer oop openbare gesprekke sien.'

Een mite wat ontwrig moet word, is die mistiek rondom Kayan Mata wat dit vergelyk met liefdesdrankies en sjarme wat vroue gebruik om mans te betower of van hulle vrouens te lok.

'Kayan Mata is seksvoedsel. Dit is wat ek hulle noem, ”sê Mansu. 'U neem hierdie kos en dit maak u nat en soet. Dit is net hul doel, nie om jou te laat betower deur jou man nie. As jy so in die bed is en dan geniet hy jou, as hy daarna iets goeds doen, dan is dit op hom. ”

Sosiale mediaplatforms soos Instagram was van kardinale belang om die gewildheid van hierdie plaaslike afrodisiacum te verhoog, en het ruimte gebied vir meer oop gesprekke oor seks en plesier, asook om baie noordelike vroue finansieel te bemagtig.

Alhoewel dit moeilik is om 'n waarde op die Kayan Mata -mark te stel, sê Umar: 'Dit bemagtig vroue beslis omdat hulle mense in diens neem wat hulle goed betaal. Daar is mense by die huis wat die kruie kry en weens hierdie oplewing beter geleenthede vir hulself en gesinne kon kry. ”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was drie jaar besig om haar onderneming te bestuur toe haar 17-jarige dogter haar oortuig het om 'n Instagram-bladsy te open. Binne weke sê sy dat bestellings vanaf plekke soos die VSA, die Verenigde Koninkryk, Istanbul, Ciprus en Dubai begin instroom het. Sy verduidelik egter dat afkomstig uit 'n konserwatiewe gemeenskap steeds beteken dat sy nie seks uitdruklik op haar sosiale media mag bespreek nie.

'Baie mense dink dat dit nie goed is om in die openbaar oor seks te praat nie. Mense kyk na jou as iemand wat eiesinnig of onverantwoordelik is, sodat mense baie wegsteek as dit kom by seks of die gebruik van afrodisiese produkte. ”

Baie van die geskiedenis rondom die gebruik van Kayan Mata sentreer rondom mans as die belangrikste ontvangers van seksuele plesier, 'n mite wat Mansur graag wil uitbreek.

'Toe ek begin, het al die vroue gesê:' Gee my iets wat my man gaan mal maak! Gee my iets wat hy sal geniet. ’En dan sê hulle:‘ Ek gee nie om of ek pret het nie, solank hy dit doen. ’”

Terwyl hierdie versoeke voortduur, het sy geglo dat vroue 'n verandering in hul ingesteldheid nodig het en besluit om hulle te leer hoe om hul eie seksuele plesier te omhels.

'Ek is so trots op myself, want ek het nou vroue wat dit geniet om seks te hê. Ek het vroue wat orgasmes en klimaks gehad het omdat baie vroue nie geweet het wat orgasmes is nie. ”


'Manne het gesê ons is immoreel ': die aphrodisiacs uitdagende taboes

As Amra Mansur as make-upkunstenaar in Abuja werk, terwyl sy regte studeer, hoor sy gesprekke tussen toekomstige bruide en ouer familielede oor hoe hulle hul mans in die slaapkamer kan behaag.

Die ouer, meestal vroulike familielede sou aphrodisiac -resepte voorlê wat bestanddele soos fenegriek, dadels, heuning, waatlemoen en die vrugte syagtige kola bevat.

Nadat sy haar studies voltooi het, het Mansur besluit dat sy nie 'n prokureur wil wees nie, en die bruidsgrimeringbedryf raak te druk. 'Ek moes in iets nuuts duik, en toe dink ek - hoekom nie Kayan Mata nie?'

'Kayan Mata' verwys na die afrodisiacum gemaak van kruie, wortels, speserye, sade en vrugte wat eeue lank deur vroue uit die noorde van Nigerië gebruik is. Alhoewel dit oorspronklik gebruik is om bruide voor te berei vir 'n huwelik, om 'n gesonde sekslewe te verseker, word die afrodisiacum toenemend gewild onder alle vroue regoor die land. Resepte word van geslag tot geslag oorgedra.

'Al my bestanddele is natuurlik. Heuning is een van die bestanddele. Ons het speserye soos kaneel, kardemom, mosterdsaad, brandrissie, dadels en suikerriet. Ons het 'n paar kruie, wortels, poeiers wat ons in Nigerië kry, veral rondom Zamfara, Gusau en Sokoto, 'sê sy. 'Hierdie kruie moet in hul natuurlike blaarvorm kom, sodat ons kan sien wat ons koop.

Kayan Mata word nie net 'n vooruitstrewende onderneming nie, dit daag ook die taboes rondom seks en huwelik en die rol van vroue in die samelewing uit.

Daar word van baie noordelike vroue verwag om die konserwatiewe rolle van vrou en moeder te vervul. "Die beeld wat ons het, is nie om seksuele tigresse te wees nie - ons is veronderstel om vuil te wees," sê die joernalis Fatima Umar. Openlik oor seks word nie van vroue verwag nie.

'Aanvanklik het ek gedink dit gaan so omstrede wees, want alhoewel ons noordelike vroue dit aanvaar, was ek nie destyds getroud nie,' sê Mansur, wat haar eie gesinsresepte bygevoeg het aan diegene wat tydens haar tyd bymekaar gekom het. , voordat sy haar onderneming oopgemaak het. 'Dit was 'n taboe vir iemand wat nie getroud is nie, om Kayan Mata openlik te verkoop. Selfs as u getroud is en Kayan Mata verkoop, is daar die stigma daaraan verbonde. ”

Umar onthou die terugslag wat sy ondervind het nadat sy 'n vierdelige radioprogram wat sy vervaardig en aangebied het, uitgesaai is.

"Die terugslag was van mans wat gesê het dat ons immoreel is deur vroue 'n platform te gee om oor seksualiteit te praat," sê sy. In twee van die episodes het vroue gepraat oor die huwelik met 'n man wat hulle nie tevrede gestel het nie. 'Om 'n Hausa-vrou op die platteland van Kano te hoor sê hierdie dinge-ons het gedink dit is baanbrekende joernalistiek, maar dit het so 'n probleem geword dat ek my foon moes afskakel omdat ek allerhande praatjies kry dat dit 'n gruwel is. ”

Buiten die terugslag, is Umar opgewonde en gefassineer deur die nuwe golf van Kayan Mata en hoe dit gesprekke open oor vroulike plesier binne gemeenskappe en sosiale groepe. 'Hopelik sal ons in die volgende 10 tot 15 jaar meer oop openbare gesprekke sien.'

Een mite wat ontwrig moet word, is die mistiek rondom Kayan Mata wat dit vergelyk met liefdesdrankies en sjarme wat vroue gebruik om mans te betower of van hulle vrouens te lok.

'Kayan Mata is seksvoedsel. Dit is wat ek hulle noem, ”sê Mansu. 'U neem hierdie kos en dit maak u nat en soet. Dit is net hul doel, nie om jou te laat betower deur jou man nie. As jy so in die bed is en dan geniet hy jou, as hy daarna iets goeds doen, dan is dit op hom. ”

Sosiale mediaplatforms soos Instagram was van kardinale belang om die gewildheid van hierdie plaaslike afrodisiacum te verhoog, en het ruimte gebied vir meer oop gesprekke oor seks en plesier, asook om baie noordelike vroue finansieel te bemagtig.

Alhoewel dit moeilik is om 'n waarde op die Kayan Mata -mark te stel, sê Umar: 'Dit bemagtig vroue beslis omdat hulle mense in diens neem wat hulle goed betaal. Daar is mense by die huis wat die kruie kry en weens hierdie oplewing beter geleenthede vir hulself en gesinne kon kry. ”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was drie jaar besig om haar onderneming te bestuur toe haar 17-jarige dogter haar oortuig het om 'n Instagram-bladsy te open. Binne weke sê sy dat bestellings vanaf plekke soos die VSA, die Verenigde Koninkryk, Istanbul, Ciprus en Dubai begin instroom het. Sy verduidelik egter dat afkomstig uit 'n konserwatiewe gemeenskap steeds beteken dat sy nie seks uitdruklik op haar sosiale media mag bespreek nie.

'Baie mense dink dat dit nie goed is om in die openbaar oor seks te praat nie. Mense kyk na jou as iemand wat eiesinnig of onverantwoordelik is, sodat mense baie wegkruip as dit kom by seks of die gebruik van afrodisiese produkte. ”

Baie van die geskiedenis rondom die gebruik van Kayan Mata sentreer rondom mans as die belangrikste ontvangers van seksuele plesier, 'n mite wat Mansur graag wil uitbreek.

'Toe ek begin, het al die vroue gesê:' Gee my iets wat my man gaan mal maak! Gee my iets wat hy sal geniet. ’En dan sê hulle:‘ Ek gee nie om of ek pret het nie, solank hy dit doen. ’”

Terwyl hierdie versoeke voortduur, het sy geglo dat vroue 'n denkwyse moet verander en besluit om hulle te leer hoe om hul eie seksuele plesier te omhels.

'Ek is so trots op myself, want ek het nou vroue wat dit geniet om seks te hê. Ek het vroue wat orgasmes en klimaks gehad het omdat baie vroue nie geweet het wat orgasmes is nie. ”


'Manne het gesê ons is immoreel ': die afrodisiacum uitdagende taboes

As Amra Mansur as make-upkunstenaar in Abuja werk, terwyl sy regte studeer, hoor sy gesprekke tussen toekomstige bruide en ouer familielede oor hoe hulle hul mans in die slaapkamer kan behaag.

Die ouer, meestal vroulike familielede sou aphrodisiac -resepte voorlê wat bestanddele soos fenegriek, dadels, heuning, waatlemoen en die vrugte syagtige kola bevat.

Nadat sy haar studies voltooi het, het Mansur besluit dat sy nie 'n prokureur wil wees nie, en die bruidsgrimeringbedryf raak te druk. 'Ek moes in iets nuuts duik, en toe dink ek - hoekom nie Kayan Mata nie?'

'Kayan Mata' verwys na die afrodisiacum gemaak van kruie, wortels, speserye, sade en vrugte wat eeue lank deur vroue uit die noorde van Nigerië gebruik is. Alhoewel dit oorspronklik gebruik is om bruide voor te berei vir 'n huwelik, om 'n gesonde sekslewe te verseker, word die afrodisiacum toenemend gewild onder alle vroue regoor die land. Resepte word van geslag tot geslag oorgedra.

'Al my bestanddele is natuurlik. Heuning is een van die bestanddele. Ons het speserye soos kaneel, kardemom, mosterdsaad, brandrissie, dadels en suikerriet. Ons het 'n paar kruie, wortels, poeiers wat ons in Nigerië kry, veral rondom Zamfara, Gusau en Sokoto, 'sê sy. 'Hierdie kruie moet in hul natuurlike blaarvorm kom, sodat ons kan sien wat ons koop.'

Kayan Mata word nie net 'n vooruitstrewende onderneming nie, dit daag ook die taboes rondom seks en huwelik en die rol van vroue in die samelewing uit.

Daar word van baie noordelike vroue verwag om die konserwatiewe rolle van vrou en moeder te vervul. "Die beeld wat ons het, is nie om seksuele tigresse te wees nie - ons is veronderstel om vuil te wees," sê die joernalis Fatima Umar. Openlik oor seks word nie van vroue verwag nie.

'Aanvanklik het ek gedink dit gaan so omstrede wees, want alhoewel ons noordelike vroue dit aanvaar, was ek nie destyds getroud nie,' sê Mansur, wat haar eie gesinsresepte bygevoeg het aan diegene wat tydens haar tyd bymekaar gekom het. , voordat sy haar onderneming oopgemaak het. 'Dit was 'n taboe vir iemand wat nie getroud is nie, om Kayan Mata openlik te verkoop. Selfs as u getroud is en Kayan Mata verkoop, is daar die stigma daaraan verbonde. ”

Umar onthou die terugslag wat sy ondervind het nadat sy 'n vierdelige radioprogram wat sy vervaardig en aangebied het, uitgesaai is.

"Die terugslag was van mans wat gesê het dat ons immoreel is deur vroue 'n platform te gee om oor seksualiteit te praat," sê sy. In twee van die episodes het vroue gepraat oor die huwelik met 'n man wat hulle nie tevrede gestel het nie. 'Om 'n Hausa-vrou op die platteland van Kano te hoor sê hierdie dinge-ons het gedink dit is baanbrekende joernalistiek, maar dit het so 'n probleem geword dat ek my foon moes afskakel omdat ek allerhande praatjies kry dat dit 'n gruwel is. ”

Buiten die terugslag, is Umar opgewonde en gefassineer deur die nuwe golf van Kayan Mata en hoe dit gesprekke open oor vroulike plesier binne gemeenskappe en sosiale groepe. 'Hopelik sal ons in die volgende 10 tot 15 jaar meer oop openbare gesprekke sien.'

Een mite wat ontwrig moet word, is die mistiek rondom Kayan Mata wat dit vergelyk met liefdesdrankies en sjarme wat vroue gebruik om mans te betower of om hulle van hul vrouens te lok.

'Kayan Mata is seksvoedsel. Dit is wat ek hulle noem, ”sê Mansu. 'U neem hierdie kos en dit maak u nat en soet. Dit is net hul doel, nie om jou te laat betower deur jou man nie. As jy so in die bed is en dan geniet hy jou, as hy daarna iets goeds doen, dan is dit op hom. ”

Sosiale mediaplatforms soos Instagram was van kardinale belang om die gewildheid van hierdie plaaslike afrodisiacum te verhoog, en het ruimte gebied vir meer oop gesprekke oor seks en plesier, asook om baie noordelike vroue finansieel te bemagtig.

Alhoewel dit moeilik is om 'n waarde op die Kayan Mata -mark te stel, sê Umar: 'Dit bemagtig vroue beslis omdat hulle mense in diens neem wat hulle goed betaal. Daar is mense by die huis wat die kruie kry en weens hierdie oplewing beter geleenthede vir hulself en gesinne kon kry. ”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was drie jaar besig om haar onderneming te bestuur toe haar 17-jarige dogter haar oortuig het om 'n Instagram-bladsy te open. Binne weke sê sy dat bestellings vanaf plekke soos die VSA, die Verenigde Koninkryk, Istanbul, Ciprus en Dubai begin instroom het. Sy verduidelik egter dat afkomstig uit 'n konserwatiewe gemeenskap steeds beteken dat sy seks nie eksplisiet op haar sosiale media mag bespreek nie.

'Baie mense dink dat dit nie goed is om in die openbaar oor seks te praat nie. Mense kyk na jou as iemand wat eiesinnig of onverantwoordelik is, sodat mense baie wegkruip as dit kom by seks of die gebruik van afrodisiese produkte. ”

Baie van die geskiedenis rondom die gebruik van Kayan Mata sentreer rondom mans as die belangrikste ontvangers van seksuele plesier, 'n mite wat Mansur graag wil uitbreek.

'Toe ek begin, het al die vroue gesê:' Gee my iets wat my man gaan mal maak! Give me something that he will enjoy.’ And then they say, ‘I don’t care if I have fun, as long as he does.’”

As these requests continued, she believed that women needed a change in mindset and decided to teach them about embracing their own sexual pleasure.

“I am so proud of myself because now, I have women who actually enjoy having sex. I have women who have had orgasms and climax because a lot of women didn’t know what orgasms were.”


'Men said we were immoral': the aphrodisiacs challenging taboos

W hen Amra Mansur was working as a makeup artist in Abuja, while she studied law, she would overhear conversations between would-be brides and older relatives about how to please their men in the bedroom.

The older, mostly female relatives would recite aphrodisiac recipes that involved ingredients like fenugreek, dates, honey, watermelon and the fruit silky kola.

After finishing her studies, Mansur decided she didn’t want to be a lawyer, and the bridal makeup industry was getting too crowded. “I needed to dive into something new, and then I thought – why not Kayan Mata?”

“Kayan Mata” refers to the aphrodisiacs made of herbs, roots, spices, seeds and fruit that have been used for centuries by women from northern Nigeria. Though they were originally used to prepare brides for marriage, to ensure a healthy sex life, the aphrodisiacs are becoming increasingly popular among all women across the country. Recipes are passed down from generation to generation.

“All my ingredients are natural. Honey is one of the ingredients. We have spices like cinnamon, cardamom, mustard seeds, chilli peppers, dates and sugarcane. We have some herbs, roots, powders we get in Nigeria, especially around Zamfara, Gusau and Sokoto,” she says. “These herbs have to come in their natural leafy form, so we see what we are buying.”

Not only is Kayan Mata becoming a thriving business, it is challenging the taboos around sex and marriage, and women’s role in society.

Many northern women are expected to fulfil the conservative roles of wife and mother. “The image we have is not to be sexual tigresses – we are supposed to be demure,” says journalist Fatima Umar. Speaking about sex openly is not expected of women.

“At first, I thought this is going to be so controversial because even though we northern women take it, I wasn’t married at the time,” says Mansur, who added her own family recipes to those gathered during her time making up brides, before opening her business. “It was a taboo for someone who isn’t married to be selling Kayan Mata openly. Even when you are married and selling Kayan Mata, there is this stigma that is attached to it.”

Umar remembers the backlash she faced after airing a four-part radio programme she produced and presented.

“The backlash was from men who said we were being immoral by giving women a platform to talk about sexuality,” she says. In two of the episodes, women talked about being married to a man who didn’t satisfy them. “To hear a Hausa woman in rural Kano say these things – we thought it was ground-breaking journalism, but it became such an issue that I had to switch off my phone because I was getting all sorts of talk that this is an abomination.”

Beyond the backlash, Umar is excited and fascinated by the new wave of Kayan Mata and how it is opening conversations around female pleasure within communities and social groups. “Hopefully in the next 10 to 15 years, we will see more open public conversations.”

One myth that needs to be debunked is the mysticism around Kayan Mata that compares it to love potions and charms used by women to bewitch husbands or lure them away from their wives.

“Kayan Mata is sex food. That’s what I call them,” says Mansu. “You take this food and they make you wet and sweet. That is just their aim, not to make you bewitch your husband. If you are like that in bed and then he enjoys you, if he does any nice thing afterwards, then that is on him.”

Social media platforms like Instagram have been crucial to increasing the popularity of these local aphrodisiacs, giving room for more open conversations around sex and pleasure as well as financially empowering many northern women.

Although it’s difficult to put a value on the Kayan Mata market, Umar says: “It is definitely empowering women as they are employing people whom they pay well. There are people back home who source the herbs and have been able to get better opportunities for themselves and families because of this boom.”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was three years into running her business when her 17-year-old daughter convinced her to open an Instagram page. Within weeks she says orders started flooding in from places like the US, UK, Istanbul, Cyprus and Dubai. However, she explains that coming from a conservative community still means that she isn’t permitted to discuss sex explicitly on her social media.

“A lot of people think talking about sex in public is not a good thing in Nigeria. People look at you as someone who is wayward or irresponsible, so people hide a lot when it comes to sex or using aphrodisiac products.”

Much of the history around the use of Kayan Mata centres around men as the principal recipients of sexual pleasure, a myth Mansur is keen to bust.

“When I started, all the women were like, ‘Give me something that is going to drive my husband crazy! Give me something that he will enjoy.’ And then they say, ‘I don’t care if I have fun, as long as he does.’”

As these requests continued, she believed that women needed a change in mindset and decided to teach them about embracing their own sexual pleasure.

“I am so proud of myself because now, I have women who actually enjoy having sex. I have women who have had orgasms and climax because a lot of women didn’t know what orgasms were.”


'Men said we were immoral': the aphrodisiacs challenging taboos

W hen Amra Mansur was working as a makeup artist in Abuja, while she studied law, she would overhear conversations between would-be brides and older relatives about how to please their men in the bedroom.

The older, mostly female relatives would recite aphrodisiac recipes that involved ingredients like fenugreek, dates, honey, watermelon and the fruit silky kola.

After finishing her studies, Mansur decided she didn’t want to be a lawyer, and the bridal makeup industry was getting too crowded. “I needed to dive into something new, and then I thought – why not Kayan Mata?”

“Kayan Mata” refers to the aphrodisiacs made of herbs, roots, spices, seeds and fruit that have been used for centuries by women from northern Nigeria. Though they were originally used to prepare brides for marriage, to ensure a healthy sex life, the aphrodisiacs are becoming increasingly popular among all women across the country. Recipes are passed down from generation to generation.

“All my ingredients are natural. Honey is one of the ingredients. We have spices like cinnamon, cardamom, mustard seeds, chilli peppers, dates and sugarcane. We have some herbs, roots, powders we get in Nigeria, especially around Zamfara, Gusau and Sokoto,” she says. “These herbs have to come in their natural leafy form, so we see what we are buying.”

Not only is Kayan Mata becoming a thriving business, it is challenging the taboos around sex and marriage, and women’s role in society.

Many northern women are expected to fulfil the conservative roles of wife and mother. “The image we have is not to be sexual tigresses – we are supposed to be demure,” says journalist Fatima Umar. Speaking about sex openly is not expected of women.

“At first, I thought this is going to be so controversial because even though we northern women take it, I wasn’t married at the time,” says Mansur, who added her own family recipes to those gathered during her time making up brides, before opening her business. “It was a taboo for someone who isn’t married to be selling Kayan Mata openly. Even when you are married and selling Kayan Mata, there is this stigma that is attached to it.”

Umar remembers the backlash she faced after airing a four-part radio programme she produced and presented.

“The backlash was from men who said we were being immoral by giving women a platform to talk about sexuality,” she says. In two of the episodes, women talked about being married to a man who didn’t satisfy them. “To hear a Hausa woman in rural Kano say these things – we thought it was ground-breaking journalism, but it became such an issue that I had to switch off my phone because I was getting all sorts of talk that this is an abomination.”

Beyond the backlash, Umar is excited and fascinated by the new wave of Kayan Mata and how it is opening conversations around female pleasure within communities and social groups. “Hopefully in the next 10 to 15 years, we will see more open public conversations.”

One myth that needs to be debunked is the mysticism around Kayan Mata that compares it to love potions and charms used by women to bewitch husbands or lure them away from their wives.

“Kayan Mata is sex food. That’s what I call them,” says Mansu. “You take this food and they make you wet and sweet. That is just their aim, not to make you bewitch your husband. If you are like that in bed and then he enjoys you, if he does any nice thing afterwards, then that is on him.”

Social media platforms like Instagram have been crucial to increasing the popularity of these local aphrodisiacs, giving room for more open conversations around sex and pleasure as well as financially empowering many northern women.

Although it’s difficult to put a value on the Kayan Mata market, Umar says: “It is definitely empowering women as they are employing people whom they pay well. There are people back home who source the herbs and have been able to get better opportunities for themselves and families because of this boom.”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was three years into running her business when her 17-year-old daughter convinced her to open an Instagram page. Within weeks she says orders started flooding in from places like the US, UK, Istanbul, Cyprus and Dubai. However, she explains that coming from a conservative community still means that she isn’t permitted to discuss sex explicitly on her social media.

“A lot of people think talking about sex in public is not a good thing in Nigeria. People look at you as someone who is wayward or irresponsible, so people hide a lot when it comes to sex or using aphrodisiac products.”

Much of the history around the use of Kayan Mata centres around men as the principal recipients of sexual pleasure, a myth Mansur is keen to bust.

“When I started, all the women were like, ‘Give me something that is going to drive my husband crazy! Give me something that he will enjoy.’ And then they say, ‘I don’t care if I have fun, as long as he does.’”

As these requests continued, she believed that women needed a change in mindset and decided to teach them about embracing their own sexual pleasure.

“I am so proud of myself because now, I have women who actually enjoy having sex. I have women who have had orgasms and climax because a lot of women didn’t know what orgasms were.”


'Men said we were immoral': the aphrodisiacs challenging taboos

W hen Amra Mansur was working as a makeup artist in Abuja, while she studied law, she would overhear conversations between would-be brides and older relatives about how to please their men in the bedroom.

The older, mostly female relatives would recite aphrodisiac recipes that involved ingredients like fenugreek, dates, honey, watermelon and the fruit silky kola.

After finishing her studies, Mansur decided she didn’t want to be a lawyer, and the bridal makeup industry was getting too crowded. “I needed to dive into something new, and then I thought – why not Kayan Mata?”

“Kayan Mata” refers to the aphrodisiacs made of herbs, roots, spices, seeds and fruit that have been used for centuries by women from northern Nigeria. Though they were originally used to prepare brides for marriage, to ensure a healthy sex life, the aphrodisiacs are becoming increasingly popular among all women across the country. Recipes are passed down from generation to generation.

“All my ingredients are natural. Honey is one of the ingredients. We have spices like cinnamon, cardamom, mustard seeds, chilli peppers, dates and sugarcane. We have some herbs, roots, powders we get in Nigeria, especially around Zamfara, Gusau and Sokoto,” she says. “These herbs have to come in their natural leafy form, so we see what we are buying.”

Not only is Kayan Mata becoming a thriving business, it is challenging the taboos around sex and marriage, and women’s role in society.

Many northern women are expected to fulfil the conservative roles of wife and mother. “The image we have is not to be sexual tigresses – we are supposed to be demure,” says journalist Fatima Umar. Speaking about sex openly is not expected of women.

“At first, I thought this is going to be so controversial because even though we northern women take it, I wasn’t married at the time,” says Mansur, who added her own family recipes to those gathered during her time making up brides, before opening her business. “It was a taboo for someone who isn’t married to be selling Kayan Mata openly. Even when you are married and selling Kayan Mata, there is this stigma that is attached to it.”

Umar remembers the backlash she faced after airing a four-part radio programme she produced and presented.

“The backlash was from men who said we were being immoral by giving women a platform to talk about sexuality,” she says. In two of the episodes, women talked about being married to a man who didn’t satisfy them. “To hear a Hausa woman in rural Kano say these things – we thought it was ground-breaking journalism, but it became such an issue that I had to switch off my phone because I was getting all sorts of talk that this is an abomination.”

Beyond the backlash, Umar is excited and fascinated by the new wave of Kayan Mata and how it is opening conversations around female pleasure within communities and social groups. “Hopefully in the next 10 to 15 years, we will see more open public conversations.”

One myth that needs to be debunked is the mysticism around Kayan Mata that compares it to love potions and charms used by women to bewitch husbands or lure them away from their wives.

“Kayan Mata is sex food. That’s what I call them,” says Mansu. “You take this food and they make you wet and sweet. That is just their aim, not to make you bewitch your husband. If you are like that in bed and then he enjoys you, if he does any nice thing afterwards, then that is on him.”

Social media platforms like Instagram have been crucial to increasing the popularity of these local aphrodisiacs, giving room for more open conversations around sex and pleasure as well as financially empowering many northern women.

Although it’s difficult to put a value on the Kayan Mata market, Umar says: “It is definitely empowering women as they are employing people whom they pay well. There are people back home who source the herbs and have been able to get better opportunities for themselves and families because of this boom.”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was three years into running her business when her 17-year-old daughter convinced her to open an Instagram page. Within weeks she says orders started flooding in from places like the US, UK, Istanbul, Cyprus and Dubai. However, she explains that coming from a conservative community still means that she isn’t permitted to discuss sex explicitly on her social media.

“A lot of people think talking about sex in public is not a good thing in Nigeria. People look at you as someone who is wayward or irresponsible, so people hide a lot when it comes to sex or using aphrodisiac products.”

Much of the history around the use of Kayan Mata centres around men as the principal recipients of sexual pleasure, a myth Mansur is keen to bust.

“When I started, all the women were like, ‘Give me something that is going to drive my husband crazy! Give me something that he will enjoy.’ And then they say, ‘I don’t care if I have fun, as long as he does.’”

As these requests continued, she believed that women needed a change in mindset and decided to teach them about embracing their own sexual pleasure.

“I am so proud of myself because now, I have women who actually enjoy having sex. I have women who have had orgasms and climax because a lot of women didn’t know what orgasms were.”


'Men said we were immoral': the aphrodisiacs challenging taboos

W hen Amra Mansur was working as a makeup artist in Abuja, while she studied law, she would overhear conversations between would-be brides and older relatives about how to please their men in the bedroom.

The older, mostly female relatives would recite aphrodisiac recipes that involved ingredients like fenugreek, dates, honey, watermelon and the fruit silky kola.

After finishing her studies, Mansur decided she didn’t want to be a lawyer, and the bridal makeup industry was getting too crowded. “I needed to dive into something new, and then I thought – why not Kayan Mata?”

“Kayan Mata” refers to the aphrodisiacs made of herbs, roots, spices, seeds and fruit that have been used for centuries by women from northern Nigeria. Though they were originally used to prepare brides for marriage, to ensure a healthy sex life, the aphrodisiacs are becoming increasingly popular among all women across the country. Recipes are passed down from generation to generation.

“All my ingredients are natural. Honey is one of the ingredients. We have spices like cinnamon, cardamom, mustard seeds, chilli peppers, dates and sugarcane. We have some herbs, roots, powders we get in Nigeria, especially around Zamfara, Gusau and Sokoto,” she says. “These herbs have to come in their natural leafy form, so we see what we are buying.”

Not only is Kayan Mata becoming a thriving business, it is challenging the taboos around sex and marriage, and women’s role in society.

Many northern women are expected to fulfil the conservative roles of wife and mother. “The image we have is not to be sexual tigresses – we are supposed to be demure,” says journalist Fatima Umar. Speaking about sex openly is not expected of women.

“At first, I thought this is going to be so controversial because even though we northern women take it, I wasn’t married at the time,” says Mansur, who added her own family recipes to those gathered during her time making up brides, before opening her business. “It was a taboo for someone who isn’t married to be selling Kayan Mata openly. Even when you are married and selling Kayan Mata, there is this stigma that is attached to it.”

Umar remembers the backlash she faced after airing a four-part radio programme she produced and presented.

“The backlash was from men who said we were being immoral by giving women a platform to talk about sexuality,” she says. In two of the episodes, women talked about being married to a man who didn’t satisfy them. “To hear a Hausa woman in rural Kano say these things – we thought it was ground-breaking journalism, but it became such an issue that I had to switch off my phone because I was getting all sorts of talk that this is an abomination.”

Beyond the backlash, Umar is excited and fascinated by the new wave of Kayan Mata and how it is opening conversations around female pleasure within communities and social groups. “Hopefully in the next 10 to 15 years, we will see more open public conversations.”

One myth that needs to be debunked is the mysticism around Kayan Mata that compares it to love potions and charms used by women to bewitch husbands or lure them away from their wives.

“Kayan Mata is sex food. That’s what I call them,” says Mansu. “You take this food and they make you wet and sweet. That is just their aim, not to make you bewitch your husband. If you are like that in bed and then he enjoys you, if he does any nice thing afterwards, then that is on him.”

Social media platforms like Instagram have been crucial to increasing the popularity of these local aphrodisiacs, giving room for more open conversations around sex and pleasure as well as financially empowering many northern women.

Although it’s difficult to put a value on the Kayan Mata market, Umar says: “It is definitely empowering women as they are employing people whom they pay well. There are people back home who source the herbs and have been able to get better opportunities for themselves and families because of this boom.”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was three years into running her business when her 17-year-old daughter convinced her to open an Instagram page. Within weeks she says orders started flooding in from places like the US, UK, Istanbul, Cyprus and Dubai. However, she explains that coming from a conservative community still means that she isn’t permitted to discuss sex explicitly on her social media.

“A lot of people think talking about sex in public is not a good thing in Nigeria. People look at you as someone who is wayward or irresponsible, so people hide a lot when it comes to sex or using aphrodisiac products.”

Much of the history around the use of Kayan Mata centres around men as the principal recipients of sexual pleasure, a myth Mansur is keen to bust.

“When I started, all the women were like, ‘Give me something that is going to drive my husband crazy! Give me something that he will enjoy.’ And then they say, ‘I don’t care if I have fun, as long as he does.’”

As these requests continued, she believed that women needed a change in mindset and decided to teach them about embracing their own sexual pleasure.

“I am so proud of myself because now, I have women who actually enjoy having sex. I have women who have had orgasms and climax because a lot of women didn’t know what orgasms were.”


'Men said we were immoral': the aphrodisiacs challenging taboos

W hen Amra Mansur was working as a makeup artist in Abuja, while she studied law, she would overhear conversations between would-be brides and older relatives about how to please their men in the bedroom.

The older, mostly female relatives would recite aphrodisiac recipes that involved ingredients like fenugreek, dates, honey, watermelon and the fruit silky kola.

After finishing her studies, Mansur decided she didn’t want to be a lawyer, and the bridal makeup industry was getting too crowded. “I needed to dive into something new, and then I thought – why not Kayan Mata?”

“Kayan Mata” refers to the aphrodisiacs made of herbs, roots, spices, seeds and fruit that have been used for centuries by women from northern Nigeria. Though they were originally used to prepare brides for marriage, to ensure a healthy sex life, the aphrodisiacs are becoming increasingly popular among all women across the country. Recipes are passed down from generation to generation.

“All my ingredients are natural. Honey is one of the ingredients. We have spices like cinnamon, cardamom, mustard seeds, chilli peppers, dates and sugarcane. We have some herbs, roots, powders we get in Nigeria, especially around Zamfara, Gusau and Sokoto,” she says. “These herbs have to come in their natural leafy form, so we see what we are buying.”

Not only is Kayan Mata becoming a thriving business, it is challenging the taboos around sex and marriage, and women’s role in society.

Many northern women are expected to fulfil the conservative roles of wife and mother. “The image we have is not to be sexual tigresses – we are supposed to be demure,” says journalist Fatima Umar. Speaking about sex openly is not expected of women.

“At first, I thought this is going to be so controversial because even though we northern women take it, I wasn’t married at the time,” says Mansur, who added her own family recipes to those gathered during her time making up brides, before opening her business. “It was a taboo for someone who isn’t married to be selling Kayan Mata openly. Even when you are married and selling Kayan Mata, there is this stigma that is attached to it.”

Umar remembers the backlash she faced after airing a four-part radio programme she produced and presented.

“The backlash was from men who said we were being immoral by giving women a platform to talk about sexuality,” she says. In two of the episodes, women talked about being married to a man who didn’t satisfy them. “To hear a Hausa woman in rural Kano say these things – we thought it was ground-breaking journalism, but it became such an issue that I had to switch off my phone because I was getting all sorts of talk that this is an abomination.”

Beyond the backlash, Umar is excited and fascinated by the new wave of Kayan Mata and how it is opening conversations around female pleasure within communities and social groups. “Hopefully in the next 10 to 15 years, we will see more open public conversations.”

One myth that needs to be debunked is the mysticism around Kayan Mata that compares it to love potions and charms used by women to bewitch husbands or lure them away from their wives.

“Kayan Mata is sex food. That’s what I call them,” says Mansu. “You take this food and they make you wet and sweet. That is just their aim, not to make you bewitch your husband. If you are like that in bed and then he enjoys you, if he does any nice thing afterwards, then that is on him.”

Social media platforms like Instagram have been crucial to increasing the popularity of these local aphrodisiacs, giving room for more open conversations around sex and pleasure as well as financially empowering many northern women.

Although it’s difficult to put a value on the Kayan Mata market, Umar says: “It is definitely empowering women as they are employing people whom they pay well. There are people back home who source the herbs and have been able to get better opportunities for themselves and families because of this boom.”

Hauwa Sule Yaro was three years into running her business when her 17-year-old daughter convinced her to open an Instagram page. Within weeks she says orders started flooding in from places like the US, UK, Istanbul, Cyprus and Dubai. However, she explains that coming from a conservative community still means that she isn’t permitted to discuss sex explicitly on her social media.

“A lot of people think talking about sex in public is not a good thing in Nigeria. People look at you as someone who is wayward or irresponsible, so people hide a lot when it comes to sex or using aphrodisiac products.”

Much of the history around the use of Kayan Mata centres around men as the principal recipients of sexual pleasure, a myth Mansur is keen to bust.

“When I started, all the women were like, ‘Give me something that is going to drive my husband crazy! Give me something that he will enjoy.’ And then they say, ‘I don’t care if I have fun, as long as he does.’”

As these requests continued, she believed that women needed a change in mindset and decided to teach them about embracing their own sexual pleasure.

“I am so proud of myself because now, I have women who actually enjoy having sex. I have women who have had orgasms and climax because a lot of women didn’t know what orgasms were.”